If you have dreams you want to realize, but your limiting beliefs or a critical voice is holding you back, then you’ll want to tune in. My guest today is Suzanne Kingsbury the Founder of The Gateless Methodology –which is a combination of brain science, radical nurturing, and embracing your weaknesses. Suzanne takes us through the three steps to implement her methodology. Her work is moving away from a culture of criticism to reconnect to your creativity, power, and your truth. All of the show notes can be found at thegoodlifecoach.com/028.

Suzanne is a best-selling author. The agent who sold Memoirs of a Geisha and Cold Mountain sold her book to Scribner for one of the biggest deals of the year for a first novelist, foreign rights were coming, and film options were on the way.  Her writing dreams had suddenly come alive. And in the years ahead, she realized her bigger calling was to help new writers experience the sweetness of publishing success.

You don’t need to be a writer to learn how to tap into your power and creativity. This work is for anyone as it teaches you how to improve your relationship with yourself, your partner and even become a more present parent.  All of the show notes can be found at thegoodlifecoach.com/028.  

Who is the Gateless methodology for?  Everyone. The work translates to all areas of people’s lives.

The Gateless Process:

  1. Radical nurturing.  The ability to allow yourself to be nurtured.  Hot baths, massage, and writing a list of what is beautiful about you every night.  When you do this your inner voice will appear.  Pay attention and don’t let it take over.  This is what makes you strong.
  2. Realize that what you see as broken about you is actually your super-power.  This is very counter-culture which is why it is so profound.
  3. Understand that you have so many resources innately inside of you that we often forget to count.  For example, people think money is the most important thing but she says resources are the most important thing.  What do you need?  This is what gives you agency to begin. Examples of resources: Time, People, Networking Events

She looks at the part of the mind that triggers fight or flight.  When you look at what is happening that makes you feel joyful – do more of that.  Investigate what activities are activating the fight or flight.  

Gateless is around finding what works and surrounding yourself with more good. What does my husband do well? Tell him. What does my child do well?  How can I first tell my kid what I love about her.  When the critical voice gets strong it means you are on the right path.

If there is a block – write into the block.  Let the voice of anxiety speak on the paper.  Write in the 2nd person.  It wants to be heard.  Then ask it – do you think this is actually true?  Listen – do you think there are really these issues?  Should we look? Let’s see if that is true and then the anxiety can be seen and heard.  

Buy a journal – write your story.  Look for the divine in there.  There is something that is greater than the human condition.  Ask the questions and the highest self will answer the questions.

Suzanne’s 3 Best Tips:

  1. Be the best friend of the self – parent the self. 
  2. Don’t beat yourself up over time.  Relax around time – everything will happen at the right time.
  3. Really see if there is an availability for writing in your life.  Keep a tiny notepad on hand to write what you love about yourself, your husband, etc, and also let your critic speak on paper.

Everything is possible with the approach of non-judgment.  You are exactly where you are supposed to be right now.  Find your strength.

Resources Mentioned

If You Want to Write: A Book about Art, Independence and Spirit
The Gospel According to Gracey by Suzanne Kingsbury
The Summer Fletcher Greel Loved Me: A Novel by Suzanne Kingsbury

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